Speaking as someone who was recently “commoditized” by who I thought was a wonderful man I met on a dating site, I find that the types of people who use these services are looking at the wrong metrics when they seek out a prospective love interest.
My mother and father had very few hobbies and interests in common, but because they shared the same core values, their love endured a lifetime. O.’s interests exactly down the line, I realized how dangerous this line of thinking truly is, how it marginalizes people who really want to give and receive love for more important reasons.
I think he has been on these dating sites for over 5 years. Stumbling upon this article during research for my Master thesis and I am curious: Would you use an app, that introduces a new way of dating, solely based on your voice and who you are, rather than how you look like?Needless to say I will not tolerate this and it was over. To me, we don’t fall in love with someone because of their looks (or their body mass index for that matter) or because of an algorithm, but because of the way somebody makes you feel and the way s.o. At the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter if someone has blue or brown eyes and my experience is, that most people place fake, manipulated or outdated pictures online to sell someone we don’t really are. I found my partner online and we had no picture of each other for three months – but we talked every night for hours…. We met on a different level and got aligned long before we met.If we had a few things in common, we exchanged numbers, texted for a while, eventually spoke on the phone and if things felt right, we’d meet in a public place to talk. I am currently with a man I met online and we have been together for two years! But there is always the thought that if this doesn’t work out, how long will it take either of us to jump right back online to find the next possible love connection?I myself would probably start looking right away since looking for love online is a lengthy process!I agree with the article that says essentially, there are too many profiles and photos.
Having fallen under this spell myself…”Oh, he’s nice but I’m sure there’s something better on the next page…” Click. Therefore they often come up with no matches at all, despite the fact that women with many different personality types in that age group have joined.They are an expensive rip-off for many women over 45.My husband had died four years ago and his wife died 11 years ago. I questioned him about his continued online search as I had access to his username.Five months into the friendship he told me he “Was looking for his dream women in cyberspace”.The authors’ overarching assessment of online dating sites is that scientifically, they just don’t measure up.