The guy just sees it as him needing time to work through some issues he’s having.
She’ll obsess over what she might have done to push him away and will try to devise some plan to get him back. In my opinion, breaks are usually a big sign of trouble.
However, it is possible for things to go back to normal as long as both people use the break time properly.
Editor’s Note: A little while back, I was having a conversation online with a close guy friend of mine about “breaks.” As we learned from Ross on “Friends,” the rules of being on a break can get murky and may wind up costing you your entire relationship.
Being on a break is different for men and women because men and women are very different when it comes to relationships in general… The conversation I was having with my friend got so interesting and enlightening, I asked him to elaborate further on the subject and took our exchange and turned it into an entire article. Whenever a guy says he wants a “break” or some time to just “chill for a bit,” it usually means he’s feeling stressed or overwhelmed by the relationship and needs time to work things out on his own.
The point of it should be to figure out why certain problems are arising in the relationship and to decide if they’re fixable.
It’s also a good chance for both people in the relationship to focus on themselves for a bit.Have confidence that even if this relationship doesn’t work out, you will find another that will. If he feels sure that you’ll be there whenever he’s ready to come back, he can take all the time he needs.Don’t let yourself get walked on and don’t let him string you along…he wants that…it makes him feel secure…and it does nothing but prolong your hurt in the process. In the meantime, go about your life and try to enjoy it without him in it.Not seeing it when you’re flipping through your phone will help initiate the healing process.Even though you may not want to, if you pretend long enough to be cold-hearted and distant with him, you’ll slowly find yourself getting over it.This stings obviously, but I’m still in the mindset that things will happen again.