A relationship with a Narcissist has been compared to being on a roller coaster, with immense highs and immense lows.
They have been described as the proverbial Jekyll and Hyde, one way one minute, another the next.
Suddenly the attention they so lavishly gave you is gone and replace by indifference and silence.
Days or weeks could go by and you won’t hear from them.
Narcissists become bored easily and what usually starts happening in their heads at this stage, is that the void begins to emerge again.
The high they were feeding off of is waning and they begin to question your worthiness, that perhaps you weren’t so special after all, because if you were then the void wouldn’t still be there.
This kind of idolization is what others would call infatuation.
The victim is likely so caught up in all the attention and is usually thinking at this point, that they have found their soul-mate.Their pursuer is exactly what they want in a partner (because the Narcissist is mirroring what they have learned appeals to their target) and they can’t believe how lucky they are and that this catch is still single.What they don’t know, or could ever be prepared for, is what comes next.I don’t feel like I belong anywhere or with anyone.” Narcissists are completely self-absorbed and are oblivious to the wants and needs of others.They enter into relationships in an attempt to fill this void and to make sure that they have someone who is always available for sex, an ego stroke or whatever need they may have.In this second phase, the mask comes off and the Narcissist starts to reveal their true colours.