I’m still healing from my last experience so am not dating, but when I’m ready I will never use a free dating site again, if I use one at all. Needless to say, they’re divorced, but it took her a while to get over that disaster and hurt.Reply yep, 3 years-red flags all the time that I denied…until one day the moron sent my cell phone a message he intended to send to another girl, nasty and disgusting…when I confronted him he just calmly said that he wasn’t my boyfriend…this was after 3 years. Not going anywhere.backwards 🙂 I have a friend on Tinder and she makes me crazy with her stories. Reply Im 56 years old – before the days of internet, I met guys thru places I went-didnt mean they wouldn’t turn out to be pigs but at least I got to meet them in person. I gave him my cellphone number (Not smart) but I was able to find out where his number was from, nothing to do with Santa Ana, CA.
Of the ones who were not obviously loaded, obvious predators, or blatantly insulting – that is, about 75% – The balance wanted a pen pal or a woman to call them. Reply This sounds like such a frustrating experience.
Thank you for sharing – I checked OK Cupid recently to find friends in the area I had moved to, and it was a total waste of time for me as well.
the bad grammar used to be notorious as well, I think that has improved these days. I still cant help but swipe left for any guy with a selfie because my inner voice screams “Narcissist!!!! Through training with people like Kim, it’s a lot easier to spot the narcissists; the I I I I aye types; the ones demanding a Rolls Royce or a Bentley; the ones that subtly insult you in the opening words, or start a quarrel (wadya mean you are a female contractor; bet you don’t get dirty.) I do get dirty, and I’ve been doing so since you were a gleam in your Daddy’s eyes. Very recently, I just pulled the plug on everything.
My grammar is not perfect, but my first language is spanish, so my apologies. I’m getting much happier with who I am, thank you very much.
A few weeks later he discarded me just at the point he knew I was gearing up to go on job interviews.
I never had a good experience, however brief, with anyone I ever met on either of those sites. Thanks Kim for being here too 🙂 Reply Ha, I know what you mean, a co worker met someone on Match.com, within no time, he sent her texts messages and calls all day and night everyday (yuck) and sent her flowers to the office…was over the moon, then they got married, she claimed everything was fine, until one day when they had been married less than a year, she caught him at another girls house in his robe…yes, she actually caught him, I think she followed him or something-she’s a feisty Italian -haha.The one man I met in person seemed very interesting and interested, but shared early on that even e Harmony had told him he was not “matchable” due to his social awkwardness.After a rather disconnected experience sitting through an experimental movie, I ended the conversation. She had more than one home, so I never new about her other life. Kathleen Reply Hi Kathleen, Thanks for commenting and for reading my books.I met two of the international contacts, I traveled to one, the other traveled to meet me, and in both cases it was obvious that we would be friends, but no more. she broke up with me in an e mail I read after I got out of the hospital, saying she’s going to work on her relationship with her husband of 35 years. I met her at the hospital she works at, She is a ceo of. I wish I had an easy answer to help with your anger, but it’s definitely a process. There are typically four phases to recovery from these relationships, which would require more than I can offer here in the comments, but a good place to start would be the Beginner’s Healing Toolkit that I have for free here on the site.Even those two fizzled out in the past 2 years, but I still feel enriched for the encounters and lessons. I know this is a stretch and an emotional work-out for introverts, but there are meet-up groups and coaches for that, too 🙂 . One I didn’t know she was bisexual, and has four grown children, Or that she was married. What can I do besides therapy, and working out, and affirmations? It typically takes several different healing modalities to recover from narcissistic abuse, including transformational healing practices. I’ve never been on Tinder but had one “relationship” from OKC and one from POF.It’s their way of testing boundaries to see if you’ll cave in. I was looking to talk to 30-40 year old, and he was 41 but I did not want to be rude and say no. I seen some of his stuff and this so sounds like him check ou the bust a cheaters website his ex and others have bene posting on him. – Both porn addicts, one into photoshopped still images of women who were beyond out of his league, the other into some disgusting daddy dom crap where he liked pictures of women sucking on lolipops saying things like “practicing for daddy.” – Both compulsive and chronic liars, omg, lying about literally everything just to keep extending the ride.