They develop the relationship not just for the present fun of the attraction, but to answer the question of whether or not this is their future husband or wife, the father or mother of their future children. ” Or even, “But, Holy Mother Church, WHEN will you get with the times?And courtship involves chastity — respecting and honoring the proper end of sexual activity, which God created for the linked purposes of bonding and babies between husband and wife. ” Moms and dads, know this: The fewer romantic partners, sexual partners, or cohabiting partners your children have before marriage, the higher the likelihood that they will enjoy a happy marriage, according to a 2014 study by the National Marriage Project.So follow these rules and make sure your companion keeps them too, then you will be able to look your children in the eye when you have to guide them on their way to marriage and family life.
And, speaking of pleasure, sexual pleasure is usually an assumed part of a dating relationship at some point — after whatever number of dates current convention has arbitrarily declared to be OK.(We know, of course, from our Catholic faith, that it’s not actually OK to sleep with someone you’re dating … This brings up the topic of “married dating,” a commendable activity to be discussed in a future article.) Think of courtship as a part of the discernment process for marriage. Rather than going off alone together as a twosome, the courting couple spends their time together in community, hanging out with each other’s families or large groups of friends.Shifting from a “dating” to a “courtship” mindset can help single adults achieve greater happiness, too.What’s the difference between dating and courtship?This is a post that is a response to an inquiry by a long time reader of this blog.
The basic question was this: what is my opinion on courtship, on dating, on how a young Catholic man should go about wooing a woman and about acceptable courting practices.
I thought I would post these ‘Rules or Boundaries for Catholic Dating’ because today’s hook-up culture; today’s self-directive, self-expression culture, promotes things that can be most unhelpful to the soul!
I have taken these from several sources, and while I suspect many will see them as over-the-top, the question must always be, ‘Can we really take too much trouble in protecting our soul from the fires of passion and hell’?
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let your family and friends share in your joy; after all, what has to be kept hidden is not of God.