It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory.
If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.Sexual immorality is a sin not only against God but against our own bodies (1 Corinthians ).It is important to love and honor others as we love ourselves (Romans 12:9-10), and this is certainly true for a courtship or dating relationship.To say or believe that another person is “everything” or the most important thing in one’s life is idolatry, which is sin (Galatians ; Colossians 3:5).
Also, we are not to defile our bodies by having premarital sex (1 Corinthians 6:9, 13; 2 Timothy ).
Although the termination of a courtship most likely will be painful, damage and hurt—which can lead to bitterness—can be avoided.
Both parties, as well as their families and all the people who love them, should continue to trust in the Lord and accept the grace He gives to deal with any disappointment or unfulfilled hopes. The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner.
(See Proverbs 3:5–7.)Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.
It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.
Instead, couples usually date with the selfish goals of having fun and enjoying romantic attachments.