Okay, I’m gonna let you in on something that very few women know.
So one of the ways they might see if you like them is to do and say anything they can think of that they think you would like. You would want the other person you’re with to feel secure with you, so that they can let their guard down and be their true day-to-day self (without all the added performances to make you like them).I’ve described this kind of thing as people wearing a pretty “mask” at the beginning of a relationship and how, if you know about this, you’ll make sure to see the person behind the mask (and not mistake their pretty “mask” as who they actually are).Everyone wants to be liked and if there’s any potential to the relationship whatsoever, the guy wants to know that you like him. So when he’s texting you sweet things, saying all that mushy stuff and being really attentive, there is an element of wanting to hook you in and see where he stands with you.MORE: 5 Steps to Stop a Man From Withdrawing Men and women both do this, but sometimes it’s harder to see when we’re thinking about the person we’re with.especially if he feels some amount of insecurity about how much she’s into him.
For instance, if a guy says something like “I like you so much” or whatever during the early phases, he very well might mean it, but he also wants to see how you’ll react.After that guy determines that you really like him, he has you, and he’s no longer worried that he could lose you to another guy.He feels secure and he feels the current relationship dynamic is secure.It's a whole new flavor of disconcert and disbelief. They've got something wrong - their expectations are off. And right now, when you look at how dating in America and dating in much of the West plays out, you're seeing this wide-eyed, confused disbelief from a large segment of both the male and the female dating populations. You don't hear women over 40 complaining much how there are "no men to date" - even though women at that age have far fewer options than their younger, louder counterparts.You also don't hear men over 40 complaining that "women skim right past them." So what's going on with the under-40 crowd that's got everybody so addled?After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website.