Partners should be especially sure that their values match before getting into marriage.
Soaking up all the wisdom you can from relationship therapists, researchers, matchmakers, and more.Here, we've distilled it down to the very best advice 15 experts have learned.As part of Committed, we're exploring partnerships ranging from a textbook marriage between high-school sweethearts to a gay couple creating a life together in the conservative deep South.has taught us anything, it's that relationships are messy.Many people assume that just because they are OK without things they want so is their partner.
'No relationship is perfect' shouldn't be used as a rationalization for complacency."— Irina Firstein, LCSW, individual and couples therapist"A friend taught me that no matter how in love you are or how long you've been together, it's important to take an exhale from your partnership.
For example: 'I get annoyed when I see dishes in the living room.
Would you please put them back in the kitchen when you’re finished? Ed., LPC-S, a certified Gottman therapist and master trainer for The Gottman Institute"The number one thing I have learned about love is that it is a trade and a social exchange, not just a feeling.
not just how you feel about each other in the moment."— Jeremy Nicholson, Ph.
D., psychologist and dating expert"There is one major cause of relationship problems: self-abandonment.
Relationships simply evolve into what they were always meant to be.