Here, everything you need to know to find love on the World Wide Web. Your Profile Picture It can seem difficult to stand out in the vast sea of online daters; the best way to do so is by creating a great profile—and be sure to always include a photo.
"The amount of times that people are approached when they have photos is multitudes more than when they don't," says Gian Gonzaga, Ph D, e Harmony's senior director of research and development and head of e Harmony Labs. Leave behind group shots, which can make it confusing for other people to identify you, advises Spira, and choose a headshot in which you are smiling.
), but it gives the impression that you have nothing to hide; confidence is always attractive.While the pictures you post should be clear—giving the viewer an accurate glimpse of what you really look like—don't completely discount self-taken shots (the ones where you hold out your camera to take your own portrait).But if there's silence after two e-mails, cut your losses and move on.6.Taking the Relationship Offline The time to take your relationship beyond the boundaries of the dating site will eventually come."Your primary photo should be all about you." She recommends posting between three to five photos only—any more and "it's as if you're already smothering your future partner." Also, be sure to include a shot where you can see your body.
It doesn't have to be provocative (and you most certainly do not have to have a perfect figure!
Make a Move In your initial e-mail to a potential partner, it's crucial to indicate that you've read his profile and took an interest in it.
According to Ok Trends, the top three phrases in initial e-mails with the highest response rate are "you mention," "good taste" and "noticed that." So, describe something that resonated with you from his profile, advises Spira, but avoid physical compliments because "they seem too clichéd." And keep it brief: Ok Trends found that the ideal first message length is only 200 characters, or one minute's worth of typing for the average writer.
The shortest messages get the best response rate; the reply rate goes down as messages get longer.
This is likely because an initial message serves mostly to make your profile available to the other person.
"Online dating used to be a strictly matrimonial endeavor," says Spira.