When you develop a crush or a transference on your therapist what you are doing is acting out a wish or fantasy about a perfect love and what that might be like.
This is good because that fantasy then becomes available for therapeutic discussion and the hungers that drive the crush can be talked about and potentially defused or redirected in a more conscious and able-to-be-satisfied manner.
Dear Chloe You asked if the rules are different if it is your daughter's therapist and not your own therapist....I don't know if legal things re:therapy are different here in the UK to in the US, but morally I am pretty certain my therapist wouldn't start an intimate relationship with my father for instance. Fw-300 #ya-qn-sort h2 /* Breadcrumb */ #ya-question-breadcrumb #ya-question-breadcrumb i #ya-question-breadcrumb a #bc .ya-q-full-text, .ya-q-text #ya-question-detail h1 html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] .ya-q-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-full-text, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] .ya-q-text html[lang="zh-Hant-TW"] #ya-question-detail h1, html[lang="zh-Hant-HK"] #ya-question-detail h1 #Stencil . Bdend-1g /* Trending Now */ /* Center Rail */ #ya-center-rail .profile-banner-default .ya-ba-title #Stencil . Bgc-lgr #ya-best-answer, #ya-qpage-msg, #ya-question-detail, li.ya-other-answer .tupwrap .comment-text /* Right Rail */ #Stencil . Bxsh-003-prpl #yai-q-answer, #ya-trending, #ya-related-questions h2. Fw-300 .qstn-title #ya-trending-questions-show-more, #ya-related-questions-show-more #ya-trending-questions-more, #ya-related-questions-more /* DMROS */ .Part of the learning that maybe needs to occur is to help you learn how you are actually able to influence your situation; that you aren’t as passive as you may think you are.
To summarize, my advice is to look for what the crush/transference can help you to learn about yourself rather than to focus on how much it hurts. I hope this response is helpful to you, and wish you good luck in finding your way through this painful circumstance you’re in.I was raised by the worst kind of parents and left for neglect by a sadist who in turn did whatever he wanted to me for 4 of the very crucial formative years of my life.Just imagine the worst kinds of horror a child can endure and still be alive, and you’ve got a good handle on what I experienced. A bit of background may be helpful I am a 37 y/o femme. The reason I write to you today is that I would like your help in dealing with this anger I have building with regard to the mental health profession.Certainly in my limited experience this is not the sort of thing I’ve been encouraged to warn patients about. For another thing, when it does occur, it is not necessarily a bad thing from the therapist’s point of view.