It must be, or there wouldn’t be so much infidelity.
It came as no surprise to me, either, that I met The One while I was involved with Charles.Despite the doom-mongering from friends and family about dating a married man, I knew I was more open to falling in love than I had ever been.You will be attracted to people outside your relationship Having an open relationship has never been my goal, but I’m not going to bury my head in romantic sand.The truth is that staying monogamous is a challenge.It’s not a competition I’ve always felt like past boyfriends compared me to other women.
Some of them directly pointed out attractive women who were thinner, younger or, in one case, more innocent-acting than me.
Talking through problems will solve the other half. If either of us were feeling insecure we talked it through.
Charles and I never argued, because nothing ever got to the point where it bred resentment. If, and I really mean when, you or your partner starts feeling attracted to someone else, creating a safe space to talk about it takes away much of the threat.4.
Expectations are everything When I first got involved with Charles, he outlined the small print. With my expectations managed, I didn’t run into brick walls trying to make the relationship something it wasn’t. Friendship, support, great sex, an emotional connection, but not “love.”In my new relationship, the scope of my expectations is wider and deeper, but one thing I know will never happen is living in the same place.
We live in different countries, and neither of us wants to move, so I’ve accepted that.
Others did not, but I still assumed they were at risk whenever a thinner, younger, more attractive, different woman was around.