Healthy physical boundaries dating

And what I also know now is that it was a smart move.

Our wedding took place just 14 months from the day we met, and that was almost 30 years, three kids, two dogs and three mortgages ago.

I still have every precious card and letter we wrote to one another during that time.

We are created by God to connect and yearn for relationship with one another. It’s only natural that as you get to know and like someone, that you desire for them to know and like the you.

But for many, the temptation can be to go too deep, too fast – especially emotionally. Why is it vital for us to guard our heart, as the writer of Proverbs puts it, .

Ask the Holy Spirit to guide you in establishing reasonable, healthy, God-honoring emotional boundaries that will help protect both you and your special someone.

Then actually put them in writing and have a friend hold you accountable to them.And also remember that if you do indeed guard your heart well, if you go slow and steady and you commit your way to the Lord, you’ll create a wise pathway forward by the decisions you make.You’ll be blessed with a qualitatively better life and relationship.And, the reward is that your life will resemble springs of living water!Alisa Grace ('92) serves as a consultant to the Biola University Center for Marriage and Relationships where she also co-teaches a class on Christian perspectives on marriage and relationships.I remember constantly asking myself, “Does he really like me? ” I also remember reading and rereading every card to decipher any hidden encouragement that he might truly like me as much as I was growing to like him.