I see myself as a lively, bright and sociable girl.
I love to interact with new people and have no problem making new friends.
She should be resilient but needs to be rescued when hardship arises. I could concede that independent and dependent tendencies might coexist in a person, certainly, but often they don’t go together.
It’s strange: In struggling, I sometimes found myself trying to do is more explicit; it’s acting in a cute, flirty way, usually with funny faces, shrugging one’s shoulders and shaking one’s head in a child-like way, or often answering questions in a higher-pitched voice.on the other hand is acting coy, not being outright honest. I found myself — hard as I tried, it just wasn’t in me). I even gave him hand-made chocolate on Valentine’s Day.The more we talked about our future, the more afraid I became that I might not be his perfect life partner.I kept on worrying about whether I could satisfy his friends or parents’ expectations of a “good woman.” My fears were not the only reason we parted ways, but they were certainly a factor.For example, if a guy asked me how many bottles of soju I could drink, I would say “half a bottle” instead of “two bottles.” That would be me “doing in the proper way. (I had already been working for several years by then.) We dated over a year. I was in love, of course, but what was happening to me?
I wanted men to accept me the way I truly am, complete with my outgoing, straightforward personality which I thought didn’t go together with girlish behaviors. For a long time, he never commented on my social gatherings or asked me to see him as my sole source of emotional support. Many of my friends started to point out that I had changed a lot.I just needed to have the right opportunity, and the right man, to let these ‘girlish’ traits show.I realized that I might have forced myself until then to be this independent, outgoing girl with an “optimistic character,” fixing problems by myself without relying on my man.It’s Valentine’s Day, and I am enjoying making chocolate on my own.I no longer categorize this activity as a womanly activity. I also recognize that so-called girlish behaviors like are not the preserve of women. The revelations on my part may be uncomfortable for some South Koreans to bear.Maybe this “me” comes out when I meet a guy who makes me relax, and I don’t have to think too much about what he thinks about me.