After you discover that your husband has visited an online dating site, you will probably have strong feelings of betrayal, anger and mistrust.
Trusting your husband again will take time and commitment from both parties. Consider asking him to recommit to fix the marriage and outline your expectations for your marital commitment.
A marriage counselor can help you learn how to communicate your needs more effectively, which may prevent future breaches of trust.
I was pregnant and he had to go overseas…we weren’t together at the time but you know I felt as though I had some kind of obligation to him because I was pregnant. Welp…its a new year and I’m pregnant again…and yep he signed up again.Well some things happened while he was gone and I found out about it. I called him out and told him this was enough.he doesn’t get right I’m moving back to North Carolina.If your husband visited online dating sites to find a new partner with whom to form an emotional or physical connection, then both of you should explore what is not working in your marriage.Although it may be difficult to speak honestly about these issues, it is important to figure out what each of you believe is lacking.Therefore, when these men crave “shameful” sex, they use porn, prostitution, or affairs to experience it.
I wrote a novel called in which the characters walk through these issues as they show up in love relationships.
I recently went on the "cheating" dating site Ashley Madison while gathering information for my e Book on online dating. For over 12 years now, this website kicked off a boom of dating sites for married people.
They often see wives as mother-like, or pure, and not appropriate for "dirty" or "nasty" sex.
The reader is the fly on the wall as the characters explore their sexual shame, and learn to relate with the partners they live with and love.
My work with clients and my explorations on Ashley Madison reveal that sexual relating is perhaps the most confusing arena in which to relate.
For example, think about whether the relationship lacks physical chemistry, intellectual connection or emotional closeness.