There are many times that I don’t realize just how much strange teaching I’ve had to undo in my life. She now lives in gorgeous Montana with her husband and three kids, loving life, writing about spiritual abuse and grace, and leading worship for church, retreats, and special events.
I usually don’t realize it until times when I try to explain them to someone else. A dear friend and I were talking about our kids and how to help them transition from children to adults. More posts by darcys | Visit the site of darcys Bill Gothard Advanced Training Institute ATI IBLP Institute in Basic Life Principles legalism grace authority fear guilt Freedom Recovering Grace abuse Basic Seminar healing Recovering manipulation rules ATIA standards spiritual abuse Homeschool false teaching love Bible parents submission sexual abuse courtship Christian liberty Training Center Gothard ITC Sin Headquarters working conditions culture homeschooling anecdotes Indianapolis Training Center What Now?
Thus began a journey to know God and understand life; a journey from bondage to grace; a journey she's still making.
Joshua Harris is a popular name in the circles I grew up in, namely Conservative homeschooling ones.He has recently been making some serious waves on social media because he is rethinking his famous book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye.I was done with passive aggressive internet discussions in which everyone wanted to talk and no one wanted to listen.I tried to find out who Joshua Harris was then and who he is now.I believe people change and get wiser, and I think that Joshua’s very public life has been both a burden and a blessing, but also something that God can reveal His love and grace through.
While I do believe in culpability and that many of the things said in I Kissed Dating Goodbye were damaging, I also believe in forgiveness and grace.Harris even went so far as to say that each of those former flames actually have some sort of hold on you. My third child doesn’t have less of my heart just because I’ve loved two other children before him. It is ridiculous to suggest that there is not enough of my heart to go around. This has got to be the most bogus and the most damaging teaching of this entire movement. And, really, I haven’t given them “pieces” of my heart. The miracle of love is that it multiplies by being given. And what view of redemption does this teaching proclaim? It is my hope that, in helping to fund this documentary, it can bring hurting Christians together so that we may heal together, forgive, confess our sins, and rejoice in the love and forgiveness Christ gave us in his death and resurrection.If you would like to learn more about the film, you can watch the Kickstarter video or see the backer options (as of this writing, there are 6 days left to back it). She was homeschooled her whole life, raised in a cultic church and with the principles taught by Bill Gothard and IBLP.