Unlike other dating experts, hers is a success story. Here’s what she had to say: Candice: Can you tell us a little bit about yourself and how you’ve become an advocate for interracial couples?Christelyn: As with most advocacy, my motivation comes from having my own experiences.I’ve often been called by my critics, “The Chief Bed Wench,” because I’m seen at the forefront of this issue. But many Black women are sensitive to that kind of insult and outright disapproval. We want the people in our lives to approve of the men we bring home. It comes down to what makes you happy and what makes your heart feel like it’s found its home.
When I started dating my husband back in 1999, there was absolutely no place, discussion or support for Black women who were dating and/or married interracially.
Necessity is the mother of invention when it comes to the work I do!
I’ll admit there’s still some hesitancy to connect offline by both genders—I know this because they write me constantly about how to overcome it.
But meeting online allows for everyone to get to know one another in a low-pressure way, and build if there is a desire to do so on both ends.
It’s time to have an honest, open discussion about interracial relationships.
No, I don’t mean gabbing about the latest drama between Olivia and Fitz.Since Black women have been hesitant to date interracially for so long, I do consider it “progress” that many of them are discovering that different races of men are willing to love and cherish them. Candice: Something I’ve also noticed lately is that more of my Black female friends have begun to look outside their race specifically due to their frustrations with dating Black men.I feel like this approach could be a bit problematic (because I don’t believe race determines the quality of man).If she wants to be married, have children, etc., the numbers just aren’t in her favor to remain exclusive to Black men.Why is it “problematic” to open yourself up to other men who might love you?I also advocate because Black women are at a unique dating disadvantage in America.