As journalist Belgin Tan says in his satirical blog in , the “independent attitudes [of foreign women] add to the challenge factor, it makes a man want to compete.Because they have freedom to select, to be selected by one of them makes the guy more of a hero, a winner, a champion.” Let’s go back to my single friend: Turkish men just assumed she would be up for anything because she is half-English and would get furious with her if she would turn them down.They would carry on, yelling, laughing, but when I would enter the room, they would go quiet as I’m a lady and I demand a certain kind of behavior.
He also told me that if a girl and a boy are friends, pretty soon one of them will develop a romantic interest in the other.Religion is of course the major player of why this is the case.Although it is not something I have to partake in, it is a subject that fascinates me.I’m trying to convince a single friend who has lived in Turkey for two years to let me document her hilarious (and sometimes scary) Tinder adventures, which include one man calling her a “prostitute” after she told him she is posing nude for an artist. In terms of sexual politics, Turks veer much closer to the ‘conservative’ dial than the ‘liberal’ one.All this results in outrageous public displays of affection in places such as Starbucks, which are seen as “Western” and “liberal,” and therefore justify a girl lying on top of her boyfriend and pretty much dry humping him.
I should also mention that these views have largely contributed to Turkish men’s taste for foreign women—and also their often inappropriate treatment of them.
It could be out of either envy or obsession caused by self-suppression.
Because they can’t openly express their own sexual problems or desires, they meddle in other people’s lives and probably live vicariously through them.
When I would be cooking, he would come and stand next to me and just stare. Universities too have mostly same-sex housing for students, and women can only sit next to another man on intercity buses or trains if he is her partner.
This means that women and men don’t interact in all aspects of the word growing up and then, naturally, have skewed outlooks on dating and sex.
He justified watching and sharing the video by saying this: “This is not private but public, because he was not with his wife. We cannot view adulterers as victims.” The question begets why the Turkish government is so obsessed with sex.