By co-creating your relationship contract, you will get the ultimate window into your partner’s physical/emotional/sexual needs.There is also a positive trickle over effect from having a relationship contract in the level of honesty that you then feel able to bring to every moment of your relationship…
It’s never too late to draft up a relationship contract between you and your partner because it helps drive a stake into the ground corresponding with the effort and communicative clarity that you want to bring to your love life.
So instead of letting your social contracts be covert, vague, and unspoken, why not sit down and say, “This is what matters to me”, and then allow your partner to do the same.
When you sit down to write your contract, it’s good to pause for a moment and ask yourself why you feel compelled to write it up at all.
What overarching benefit are you (and your partner) primarily looking for by writing up your relationship contract?
Is it about the discovery and alignment of your life goals and values that you want clarity around?
Whatever your primary intention is, discover it and verbalize it to your partner as you go into your brainstorming session.
There are essentially an infinite number of categories of things that you and your partner could potentially include in your relationship contract.
Some of the most common things that my clients have prioritized in their contract are:– Details regarding date nights (when they happen, how often they happen, what they should frequently consist of, who plans them, the balance between stay-at-home date nights vs.
every 1-4 weeks) that it becomes something that you track neurotically and obsess over.
If you and your partner revisit and revise your relationship contract a couple of times per year, you (and your relationship) will be in good shape. Send this article to your significant other, tell them, “This sounds fun! ” and start brainstorming out your relationship contract together.
Have you ever heard of a relationship contract (also sometimes referred to as a relationship agreement)?