You’re better off ditching the crappy, manipulative dating tactics and sending a nice, normal message.
Unless both of you make it clear in your profiles that you are on this site for sex and only sex, keep the message PG – yes, even if there’s a mention of something sexual in the person’s profile, and yes, even if you think your sexual reference is cute or funny or clever.
“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.
There are lots of reasons why someone may sign into OK Cupid, check their messages, and not message you back. Or, they might be checking their inbox quickly, and will respond later. But the quickest way to get yourself classified as a psycho is to message someone more than once without getting a reply. Repeat messaging says, “I am a creep with boundary issues.” And sure, there’s someone out there for everyone, but you will widen your dating pool by not being a creep with boundary issues.Yes, we’re all animals here and yes, dating is initially about physical attraction, but there has to be something more to make a relationship (or even a not-totally-painful date) work out.) Does her profile say she’s a lesbian and you’re a straight guy with a weakness for Justin Bieber haircuts?Sorry pal, but she’s not gonna be into you, no matter how hard her floppy hair makes you.So respond to what’s in their profile and ask a question or two. ___If you've got your own online dating horror stories, drop them below, or submit them anonymously.
I'm good looking, confident, fun and intelligent, fit, work out, nice big package, Friendly but dominant in the bedroom.
Responding to a few items in a person’s profile will take somewhere between three and eight sentences; if you find yourself writing a six-paragraph missive, work that delete key.
We can tell when your message is copied and pasted to multiple people.
You would think “don't be a dick” would be obvious, but there are apparently legions of people (mostly dudes) who adopt crappy pick-up artist tactics in their online dating lives, and think they might get lucky by sending vaguely (or blatantly) insulting messages to unsuspecting recipients (negging is actually a thing! Is there some low-self-esteem lady out there who might respond to a message about how ugly she is?
Sure, maybe, but the odds are slim — and since this is the internet, even women who have been strongly socialized to be nice to cretins in bars are able to hit the delete key.
So you’ve caught on that “hey wuzz up” is generally understood to be an unoriginal message. However, copying and pasting some bizarre, rambling message isn’t going to trick someone into thinking you wrote all of that for them.