Now, if your marriage is not a monogamous one, don’t sweat your desires. As long as it’s clearly okay with both of you, you should be able to quench your thirsts with a man of any color you choose!
The only way people learn acceptance is habituation, continued exposure, and it's a looooong process (talking generations).My mother made her distaste for my black girlfriend very clear early on (before she'd even spoken to her), and I was long out of her home and well into my 20's. Many parents are full of ridiculous "old world" ideas, prejudices, superstitions, etc. Anyway, the answer to all of them is basically the same: if you're a minor (I assume you are) and you live in your parents' house, you must follow their rules. Lots of us might like to give certain parents a smack and a good talking to, but we have not yet been given this right.Don't expect your parents to change their views too much any time soon.
If they're first-generation immigrants (I'm assuming? ) to a Western country, they probably dealt with a lot stuff just trying to establish themselves.If she’s unsatisfied for any reason, it’s better to know now so you can figure out how to repair that. Of course we all have features we’re more attracted to, and sometimes skin color or other features are captured in these preferences.If you’re having issues of jealousy or insecurity, you gotta figure that out, too. Remember that thinking Black guys are hot is normal. So are white guys, Latino guys, Asian guys, Inuit guys, First Nation guys, Eastern European guys, Middle Eastern guys, Indian guys, South American guys, West African guys, any nationality I haven’t covered… But you were attracted to your husband once, and so we’re not going to rule him out.It’s weird how, in our society, we’re still carrying forth racist themes from hundreds of years ago that mythologize the hyper-sexual Black man.Most of the time we don’t even know we’re doing it, but it’s very present. There will be some you’re attracted to, some you’re not.You may be looking outward for new experiences, because things are not going exactly the way you want with your spouse.