Some groups are liberal about mixed marriages, others much more proprietorial.
The good news is that Christians and Muslims are increasingly recognising the need to talk about these things.
Many of the more conservative or evangelical Christian denominations, meanwhile, insist spouses convert or promise to bring their children up as Christians.
The document, called When Two Faiths Meet, is the product of months of painstaking negotiations between Christian and Muslim leaders and emphasises the need for tolerance and acceptance of mixed-faith marriages.Among the recommendations are speaking out against forced conversions, recognising the legality of inter-faith marriages in British law, non-judgemental pastoral care and a complete rejection of any violence."It might sound a little like we are stating the obvious but it does need to be said," Sheikh Ibrahim told The Independent."In reality Christian and Muslim couples often face very challenging scenarios where there is not enough tolerance or the right pastoral care and that can lead to a very damaging and negative experience for them."The Leicester-based imam said clerics were motivated to come up with the guidelines because they were seeing increasing numbers of inter-faith marriages over the years."It's clearly already an issue and something that will become more and more common," he said."It makes sense for pastors and imams to be ready for such situations rather than be left without help of guidelines when they get approached by couples seeking their advice."Those with experience of inter-faith marriages say couples often face a variety of difficulties.Estimating the number of people in mixed-faith marriages is difficult.
The 2001 census suggests 21,000 but demographers believe the figure is considerably higher.
I got a lot of ‘But Jaz, he’s a Muslim’, ‘Are you sure about this? Sadly, racism and prejudice is still very much a thing among some people, and too many are still taking warped ideas about Islam and images of a minority of Muslims doing awful things on the news, and applying them to the majority. Some people choose to later when the whole marriage thing happens, but it’s a choice) ‘Does he mind people knowing that you’re a couple? Tradition is something that most families will want to hold on to, so reluctance toward accepting something like a relationship with someone outside of their faith is definitely going to take some time.
Nope, I don’t see the logic there either, and it really is quite sad. Although it’s hard for people our age to get that once upon a time, gay, inter-race or inter-faith couples just weren’t a thing (at least publicly), and for some members of a more conventional, older generation, its still something that their getting their heads around. Especially when you’ve reached a point where you want to be involved in each other’s family lives. It’s not going to be an easy ride but if you both want to make it work, you can. Most of the drama comes from other people who just don’t get it. I don’t know, maybe they missed that PSHE lesson in yeah 4 about not judging people before you get to know them.
If you asked me to tell you about my boyfriend, I’d spend hours going on about how he makes me laugh even when I’m trying to be stroppy, and how he brings me donuts when I’m stressed (He’s a keeper, right? For some reason though, when I’m mid-way through my well-rehearsed story about how we met and how in luuurve we are, the bit that people get caught up on is the fact that he’s Muslim... I was christened as a baby, my grandma still has the puffy white gown that I wore, and we go to church on Christmas morning, but like many girls in their 20s, I wouldn’t say that religion plays a significant part in my day to day life.
On the other hand though, following Islam plays a more prominent role for my boyfriend’s.
The downside is, some people refuse to look past the Muslim part.