Unfortunately, most people feel like attraction is out of their control. So the next time you’re absent-mindedly swiping left, ask yourself why you’re rejecting those profiles.Like it’s something they’re born with and nothing can be done about it. And if the answer is “attraction,” just imagine me reading this article aloud to you, really close to your face, without modulating the volume of my voice. They’re not thinking about the fact that this is a widespread phenomenon.
According to Pew Research Trends, White and Asian newlyweds have the highest combined income compared to any other pairing (including non-interracial marriages) with a median of ,952.
Here’s the median income of all marriage combos in America: White & Asian – ,000 Asian & Asian – ,000 White & White – ,000 White & Hispanic – ,900 White & Black – ,187 Black & Black – ,700 Hispanic & Hispanic – ,000 Now, let’s zero in on Black Americans who marry outside their race.
Height, religion, career paths, Netflix show most recently watched, the list goes on and on. (This seems as good a time as any to mention that when I say “all my clients,” I do mean clients of all sexual orientations.
But of the 90% of the reported racial preferences, 89.9% are preferences for white people. Let’s not get heteronormative now; we’re only in the third paragraph.)Now, it gets tricky, because when a person sits down and says that they particularly want to date white people, they’re not thinking about the fact that the client before them, and the client after them, are saying the same thing.
So when I ask my clients who their celebrity crush is, they pick white people. I know it’s awful, but I’m just not attracted to black people.”Often, what I want to respond is:1) There are other races besides white and black.2) You’re not attracted to black people? You’ve met all of them, and not a SINGLE PERSON does it for you? Of course it Now switch the scenario and pretend it’s an employer, discussing who to hire (maybe replace children with interns? We’re comfortable (theoretically) with integrating our schools and workplaces, but we stop short when it comes, quite literally, too close to home. As Ward says, “You cannot control what you’re not aware of.
And when you close your eyes and think of someone hot, you’re probably thinking of a white person. Man, you must be exhausted after traversing the ENTIRE GLOBE searching for just ONE black person that you could get it up for! But this kind of racism is so deep-seated, so ingrained, that people believe their attractions are chemical. But you can develop awareness and create a new pattern.” Without recognizing that this is an issue, we don’t stand a chance at fixing it.But thanks to , a 1967 landmark Supreme Court case, today’s Halles, Paulas, and Imans needn’t hide their affections for their fair-skinned lovers. Today, a record-high 87 percent of Americans approve of Whites and Blacks tying the knot, according to Gallup. In 1995, 68 percent of Blacks approved while only 45 percent of Whites did the same.It’s been 47 years since interracial marriage was given the green light. Today, the approval gap is at its smallest — 96 percent of Blacks are a-okay with interracial marriages compared to 84 percent of Whites.Unsurprisingly, Americans over the age 65 and residents of the South are least likely to support a racially-mixed family. They will just have to get over the fact that there are over 5 million interracially-married couples in the US, according to the latest census data. But which group, among all interracial marriages, are the most common? Take a look at the percentages behind America’s interracial combinations:points to “a steady flow of new Asian and Hispanic immigrants” in the West as the reason behind their high rates of interracial coupling.And now, let’s talk about our favorite topic here at Madame Noire Business: Money!To take one of the most obvious and simple examples, consider Hollywood, which is notoriously white. That means the math equation looks something like this: If Hollywood=White, and Hollywood=Hot, then White=Hot. We are not the passive victims of our own internalized biases. As author and psychologist James Giles writes, “That is not to say that romantic attraction is fully under our control, but only that it is not fully our control.” So when are our love lives going to start reflecting that? People are happy to acknowledge that hiring someone based on their skin is racist.