Presenting you with rose tinted glasses that inevitably color your view of them. Wouldn't you rather hear about his vacation to Bali in person rather than see it through a screen? Why obsess over that untagged girl in his picture from nine weeks ago? Do you read into small actions such as turning over his cell phone face down or bringing it into the bathroom when you're together? You should not misinterpret his messages, words and body language. I am a Pisces with a moon in Cancer and ascendant Leo, however, I do not rely on the stars to tell me if I will be compatible with my intended partner. Before you go calling Miss Cleo to discover some predetermined fate, try actually meeting with him in person and getting to know him prior to making a decision. We are humans, and as such we are inevitably flawed (except for our Kween #Praise Yoncé). Expecting every new love interest to embody Prince Charming is A. Allow your partner to be their unapologetic true selves. Learn to be secure enough in your relationship, your partner and yourself that this never needs to be done.
Who the f*ck cares if he has his third house in Aries and that won't work because your ex boyfriend's sister's best friend, who you went on a terrible date with that one time, was an Aries? Words are powerful -- especially the words we say about ourselves. You need to accept him for who he is, not for what he does.“I want a boyfriend who is least 6ft tall, has a 401(k), works in finance, likes fine art, doesn't look at other women, is available all the time, dresses well, reads Alexandre Dumas, buys me flowers, lives alone, eats vegan, practices martial arts, can play guitar, doesn't smoke, and is family oriented.”It's wise to have a general list of qualities you would like your partner to embody. This may sound cliché, but that is because it has been tried and proven true. If the person you are dating does not like that then FUCK THEM. There are over 7 BILLION people in the world so why the fuck would you try to change yourself for ONE person?
No one knows your relationship better than you and your partner. If something is bothering you, address it with your partner directly.
This cultivates trust between the two of you, helps you come to a conclusion regarding your issue, and saves your friends from yet another venting session.
As tempting as it may be, this will only serve to hurt you. Discover the details of his life through intimate conversation instead of playing Nancy Drew. If you don't enjoy spending time with yourself, how on earth do you expect anyone else to enjoy your company? Emotional games are fucking stupid and a complete waste of your time. If he starts playing games with you, making you question yourself or his feelings toward you, talk to him about it. If this does not provide results, then #On To The Next. In addition, if you feel such a strong amount of distrust in your partner that you have to go through his phone, there is a much bigger issue at hand.
When we stalk someone on social media, we are not getting a true representation of that person because social media accounts can be tailored to present a specific "image."In addition, the things you see will serve to catalyze the mystification of this individual. Do you spend copious amounts of time running a text message past your friends for some hidden meaning? The old adage, “When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me” has withheld the test of time for a reason. Please do not dole out life advice or relationship tips to your friends and yet still accept that Netflix and Chill invite from that broke ass f*ckboy you met last summer. When we expect guys to change themselves simply to fulfill our fantasies, we are showing an inherent lack of respect for their individuality. Unless you and your guy have had a specific talk regarding exclusivity, do not bank on him being 100 percent loyal to you. At the end of the day, he's not your boyfriend and doesn't owe you shit. Address your concerns with your partner directly, especially if they are burdening your mind.
And in a time of ever-changing social mores and social media, romance is more confusing than ever ("Is it weird if I tweet at him? WH spoke with psychologists, scientists, and dating experts to give you a truly modern love manual.
The process of actually finding your ideal partner can be even more of an arduous process challenge.Start seeing technology as a useful tool to get to know guys better. Before you know it, your convos will be getting offline."Instead of trying to micromanage your love life, create open spots for men, planned or unplanned, to fill," Massa says. Until you do, a guy may not even realize you're into him.When you hear a song you think a guy would like, send it to him on Spotify. Next time you're buying concert tickets for a band you love, buy two—and don't immediately decide who gets to be your plus-one. The key is getting the guy out of a familiar context. That's what happened to one guy Massa interviewed who met his now-fiancé on a volleyball team."You'll be missing out on all sorts of opportunities to connect with guys if you're simply waiting for them to ask you out," Massa says.Every interaction counts, from the conference room to G-chat to the soccer field.This may come as a surprise but please take this as a statement of fact. Consequently, the circumstances which surround the joining of these two energies cannot abide by some fictional rule book. When it comes to your relationship, how much does the opinion of anyone who is not your partner actually matter?