Have you ever exchanged emails with someone you met through an internet dating site, just to wonder if its the same person who is replying to your messages each time?Or perhaps you've briefly thought to yourself that the person on the other end of the communication really needs to employ a spell-checker.It can be very heady to have an ongoing email chat with someone who is focused entirely on you.
So how do you avoid falling prey to an internet dating scam in the first place?Take heed of the following red flags and you'll be much more aware, prepared and ready should someone try and take advantage of you.They ask for money, like "Adam Smith" did with Lilo Schuster. "You feel like you're contributing to your relationship, that you're helping his daughter be able to go on a trip that he couldn't provide for her, but, you know, he'll pay me back is what he had said," she recalled. If someone you are dating — online or otherwise — asks you for money, do not give it."I would say, 99-plus percent of the time, the answer would be, 'I'm sorry, I can't send you any money.' I can't really envision a scenario when that's anything other than a scam," Hood said.It could help stop a fraudster in his cruel and dastardly tracks.
from people concerned they've been scammed by a single looking for love, and the U. Postal Service has created a video about the same topic on its Fake website.
If you are also using an online dating site, it is easy for a scam artist to cross-check your name with your Facebook profile.
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"Even in the last decade, so many more people meet other people online for the purpose of dating," said New York attorney Jonathan Hood, who has written extensively on internet fraud. Of course, the best way to tell if the person you are dealing with is real is to meet in person. "If they say, 'I'm not ready to meet you in person,' or 'I want to continue just chatting online,' that could be trouble," Hood said.
"It just makes it so much easier for people to connect without ever meeting in person, and sort of as a result, never really verifying that the other person is who they say they are." In the latest twist, reported on the next episode of CNBC's "American Greed," con artists are exploiting Americans' respect for the military. Moving your relationship from virtual to real is a big step. If you are not yet comfortable meeting your new friend in person, Hood says to at least try to move away from the confines of the dating site by getting their email address or connecting on Facebook. "If you start getting, 'I'm not sure that I'm comfortable with that yet,' it doesn't mean that they're a scammer, but in my mind it would raise some red flags," Hood said.
If you suspect someone is trying to scam you, report your concerns to the dating site.