Working out these differences will teach you a lot of valuable lessons and you will learn to understand another culture which is just as fascinating as yours.
), our common roots back in the States, and her background in performance art.
At one point she shared with me her frustrations over a performance meant to showcase artists from our region in the U. The thing is, whoever put together this particular exhibition had invited a number of men from her theatre program to participate — meanwhile she and several of the other women who graduated from the program found out about the event later when one of the guys posted it on facebook.
If you are not ready to do that, and if she doesn't understand it as well, then you should find a Christian or Hindu girl, they make up 10% of the Indonesian people so it's not that hard to find.
Age Gap: The age difference, quite common in expats/Indonesian girls’ couples, is less a problem than one could imagine.
It may not be a problem at the beginning, but soon, some issues will appear: Who needs to pay for the restaurant?
For the plane ticket to Bali when you go on holidays?
- If she asks you money for her family, take the matter seriously.
Visit them, and make sure that everyone is doing its share too, including all the relatives.
Even if she is not that religious, chances are her family is, and they will not tolerate anything but a Muslim wedding.
If you find yourself in this kind of situation, I think you need to convince your girlfriend that the best you can do is "fake" the conversion to become Muslim in order to look good in front of her family, but keep your own religion without telling people except her.
How do you arrange her coming to your home country?