“As a single parent, you can’t be spontaneous anymore, which is a really important thing for dating.” Dating Frustrations Scott is not alone. More than three-quarters of these are women who hold primary custody of their children.Some of these parents are newly single, still in tender shock over the breakup of their marriages or relationships.One thing she has learned is to curtail the time she spends chatting with a dating prospect online.
Perhaps you prepared for hours, trying on a dozen outfits, flat-ironing your hair to perfection and engaging in imaginary conversations with the person who could possibly turn out to be “the one.” Now imagine being a single parent on a date. Is this guy really worth the an hour in babysitter fees?
But more than anything, on your dinner date, can you manage to not pass out in your rigatoni from sheer exhaustion?
Luckily, she had a wide circle of friends without children who were willing to babysit while she went out on dates with people to whom they had introduced her. Experience eventually taught her to bring it up on the first date, if not before.
“If that scares people, then I don’t want that from the start,” she says, adding that she has been in a relationship for the past four years.
“It was getting back out there and getting my feet wet,” says Gitnick, who has an 11-year-old son and has been single since he was 7 months old.
Gitnick soon started to date people she didn’t know. Most of the men Gitnick has dated didn’t have children of their own, which initially made her feel awkward, not knowing when she should bring it up.
“My advice is to be willing and wanting to meet people and you’ll find that you meet them in real life.” Mott takes the initiative to be social and encourages his married friends to invite him to parties – something they tend to overlook because of his single status.
“I have found that it’s much better to meet a woman through friends because the mutual connection makes you both more respectful of each other,” he says.
No one doubts that being a single parent is a tough job.
But when you throw dating into the mix, there arises a whole new set of challenges.
“Every time I’ve brought it up, however, I’ve been pleasantly surprised that the men have not overreacted.