In fact, 42 percent of children ages 10 to 17 have seen porn online, according to survey in the journal Pediatrics.The best way to talk sex is to give your child age appropriate information throughout childhood and later tie it into relationships. “Everybody needs to be treated with dignity,” Wiseman said.Set the rules together Although you already know what the rules will be about dating, curfews, parties and driving, it’s important to negotiate them together. “Empower them to be part of the decision making process, and they’ll follow it more,” Gardere said.
Open-ended questions like, ‘how do you feel about your friends these days?
’ instead of ‘what happened at that party last night?
So how can you make sure your kid isn’t sexting his or her latest crush? “As much as you would like to have control of the situation, you don’t,” Wiseman said.
“You’re not going to be sitting there when your child receives or sends a picture.” So aside from confiscating cell phones, talk with your kid about what your family’s values are when it comes to technology in the hopes that he or she will make the right decision.
’ allow more opportunity for discussion.” Sharing your own experiences can also help when talking to your daughter, says Nadine Kaslow, Ph D, professor and vice chair, Emory Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences in Atlanta.
Mothers can become a role model when they share just enough – but not too much – about their own teen years.“Everybody needs to be treated with worth, and sexuality is a reflection of that.” Make them responsible You can talk to your child about birth control and make sure your daughter gets the HPV vaccine, but making sure your child has safe sex and is also emotionally prepared for it comes down to trust.“As the parent, you have to let them know that you do trust them, but they also have to live up to their responsibility of being very cautious,” Gardere said.Follow these steps to help your daughter talk often with you about the issues she’s dealing with.Talking with your teenage daughter about important topics should start years before she reaches adolescence, says Atlanta pediatrician Deborah Pollack, MD.How can you prepare your children to date and make sure they’ll make good choices now and throughout their lifetimes? Take it seriously “These are their first relationships, and so they fall hard,” said Rosalind Wiseman, an educator and author of Queen Bees and Wannabes.