The crucial thing, she notes, is that victims know they have a support system in place for when that time comes.
"Abusive partners try to isolate their victims so they feel like they have no one to turn to, so if or when the victim decides to leave, knowing that you have their back is going to be really important," she says.
quoted a student from Santa Fe High School in Santa Fe, Texas, who said that a girl who rejected the advances of the school shooting suspect was among those shot in the art class he first targeted.
Khubchandani notes that people who spend their days around young people, like teachers and school administrators, can create clear-cut policies that are regularly reviewed.De Ladesmo says that being transparent with students about these policies is critical to making sure young people make decisions that they feel are best for them.Why don't more students and young people come forward when they see signs of intimate partner violence among their peers?Melanie Sperling, chief of staff at One Love Foundation, tells that it's largely cultural.Students aren't the only ones having trouble deciphering the signs and taking them seriously; many adults, including those who work at schools or in other situations with young people, have trouble as well.
According to Sperling, one of the biggest challenges facing adults, including parents, is that many people mistakenly believe that abuse starts with physical violence as opposed to emotional or verbal abuse.
Much of the focus was on his potential ties to white nationalist groups (there is still no evidence of such ties), as well as his ongoing run-ins with law enforcement, who were reportedly called to his residences dozens of times.
Among these details, however, was another key piece of information: Like many mass shooters, the shooter had a history of violence against women.
"For most school counselors, when they graduated [from grad school], they didn’t have these types of issues [in their curriculum]," he says.
Additionally, De Ladesmo says that some adults, even those in school environments who receive training on the subject, don't know the legal parameters surrounding reporting an incident and notifying administrators, law enforcement, child services, or other agencies.
Break the Cycle also has resources available for learning more about how to talk to a peer experiencing abuse.