All that this does is show him that he can treat you like an option while he makes other things a priority. This scenario tends to lead to a relationship downward spiral since the less he puts in effort, the more upset the woman tends to get…
and as the woman gets more upset, she tends to act more desperate, more paranoid and more guarded.
The more of an effort he puts into seeing you or doing things for you, the more invested in you he’ll become.This is why being accommodating to bad behavior is actually harmful to creating a bond with the guy in the beginning.I don’t understand…we will be texting back and forth for a few, then nothing…air silence! I would say that we guys prefer text because it makes it easier to avoid talking to someone when we don’t feel like it.Speaking for myself, there have been times when I’ve bailed on responding to a text simply because I’m busy with something else.I think all guys would generally agree: we tend to be single-minded in what we’re doing and focus on meeting one objective at a time. 5) If I’m with another girl (note: If I’m in a relationship it’s monogamous, I never cheat, but if not dating around is fair game.) In your situation, it sounds like this guy will try to make plans and then when it gets complicated, or it seems like it isn’t going to happen, he directs his attention elsewhere and doesn’t feel the need to text further (again it comes down to the concept of a man’s tendency to single-mindedly fixate on fulfilling an objective or reaching a goal).
Anything outside of our focus at that moment is a distraction that we don’t want to “deal with”. Now you mentioned that you’ve expressed your frustration over his behavior and he hasn’t changed. ’) you might think you’re drawing a line in the sand, but he sees it as something else entirely: NEEDINESS. A few clarifying points: I know the term “neediness” gets thrown around a lot these days, so I want to be really specific in how I define it. It finds a way to telegraph itself no matter how much the person tries not to “act needy”.” Quiz and see what his texting habits mean about your relationship.Whether it’s his texting habits, the way he talks to you or the ways he shows (or doesn’t show) his affection for you, you don’t want to be chasing his affection.Bottom line: Don’t accept or ignore behavior that you don’t want…but realize that “not accepting” behavior doesn’t mean fighting the other person. Showing the guy that you’re not going to wait around for him if he disappears demonstrates a lot of good things about you: you have your own life, you have options and your world doesn’t revolve around him.If he doesn’t change and you continue to feel frustrated by his behavior then remember that you can always drop him and move on.