But…not for that white individual white man, who should have offered to leave his family, be disowned, fired and black balled from his job, risk his freedom and life, and with no income, no family, an arrest recorded and possible gun shot wounds, would walk off into the sunset with his black female mate and live off nothing but sunshine and air. We dont have to scrape the bottom of the barrel for ANY man, but after GENERATIONS of giving our ALL to bm who gave us nothing back, I think we are bit out of order to now expect non-blk men to show up be EVERYTHING we never demanded black males be.
Anyone who brings up The Lovings as an example of a man who risked everything for the love of his wife is using the exception that proves the rule. Not even to stick around and help raise HIS damned children. Black women demand more of white men as some form of COMPENSATION for his not being black. We demand more from white men as some form of PENANCE for the him not being our ideal BLACK man. I think black women are bringing our POOR VETTING SKILLS over to nonblk men and dont even know it. Any black women who is expecting random white men to APOLOGIZE for the oppression of the black male – oppression (which she secretly believes that individual white man is responsible for) that has DENIED her access to the type of BLACK man she wants – by expecting said random white men to make it up to her by being Hercules, Brad Pitt and Bill Gates all in one, needs to have a serious discussion about what they TRULY feel about non-blk men. Im amazed at how black women feel the need to make white men apologize for racism, but feel NO IMPERATIVE to make black males apologize for their sexism & misogynoir.
One day, I decided to give online dating a shot, so I tried chatting up white women on sites like Okcupid or POF, without much luck.
Black women will negotiate with Black Sexism without blinking an eye, but the notion of navigating race-issues with a non-blk partner without making it the center of the household seems foreign? Just like many bm choose ww who remind them of bw but arent, bw do the same with wm.
They actually WANT a black male, but cant find or keep one so they go find a white one and try to TURN him into a black dude.
Its duplicitous and ridiculous and I would encourage all white/non-blk men who are genuinely interested and open to partnering with black women to avoid chics like that like the plague.
Black women can be WONDERFUL mate options for non-black men, but we got our shit with us too.
There are MANY pros for dating/courting/marrying/mating/partnering with black women. My suggestion to wm who are looking for a black woman to love would be to make sure she is not using you in some strange reverse Black Love scheme – where she gets to live out her Race-First SJW imperative, not by fighting “the system’ in abstract, but by using her influence to convert a single white man for the cause.
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Its one thing to want your non-blk man to be awake and aware of the challenges that race implications create in society.
But to expect white men to start eating off the Black Struggle Plate just to ‘prove’ their devotion to us is insane and disingenuous.
I did go on a few dates, but I could only get like one per month, and they were cougars and BBW, which were ver nice, but I wanted more.