And when these stereotypes are internalized and then manifested in society, it could have severe consequences.More often than not we are looked over for jobs, we do not receive adequate education or medical care, and we are imprisoned at much higher rates than our white counterparts all because blackness is rarely associated with positivity. Often, someone from a marginalized group is expected to be the authority on that group’s culture, but that’s an unreasonable expectation.We ended up hitting it off, but it wasn’t until our first date that I realized I had underestimated the wingman’s abilities.
He kept touching my hair without my consent, was legitimately disappointed that I could not twerk, and called me “sassy” whenever I voiced an opinion that was different from his.Unfortunately, that wasn’t the first or last awkward date I’ve had with a white man.While it may be hard for two people from widely different intersections of race and gender to understand each other, it’s not impossible once the more privileged party (in this case, the white guy) is able to recognize their shortcomings and how the intersections of race and gender affect every aspect of a black woman’s life.A white man must be willing to work toward a better understanding of how race and gender intersect differently for everyone, and he must also be prepared to speak out against the injustices that their partners will endure.We’ve recently offered suggestions on how people of color can approach their white partner on the issue of race.
And while of course the topic of race should be an ongoing conversation with your significant other, things would go a lot smoother if men — — were able to identify and prevent racial tension from the very beginning.
Microaggressions are comments or actions that unintentionally alienate or demean a marginalized person or group.
These include, but are not limited to, saying things such as “You’re [insert positive adjective] for a black girl! ” These may seem harmless to some, but they’re actually symptoms of deeper problems rooted in systematic oppressions that black women face daily.
Intersectionality would help because it’s an understanding that a person’s experiences are shaped by their gender, race, physical ability, and socioeconomic class, to name a few factors.
In other words, you should be looking at the to any of these, then you should take a step back to reevaluate.
Instead, remember that black women, like all people, have varying interests, backgrounds, and obstacles that they face daily.