Dating an older guy meant there was a chance his maturity matched yours.
Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but “younger men don’t have the ‘dad” gene in them until they get to be more established and mature,” says New York City-based matchmaker Janis Spindel.So if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.Because of this, and the maturity factor, I never even gave two thoughts about going for a younger guy. In my freshman year I still thought it was the ideal plan to date older men.I had always vowed to never go for a younger man because, well, I didn't want to be dating somebody with the maturity of a child.“He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.
Your biological clock is ticking away, meanwhile his might not even be turned on.
In some cases, the guy is just drawn to a woman who takes care of him, but beware that some men may be true gold diggers looking for a free ride or to be taken care of financially, she adds.
Being the breadwinner may not matter to you if, say, he makes an amazing dinner every night so you don’t have to worry about cooking or he’s a great handyman and has updated your entire apartment, but only you can decide that.
If a lot of your guy’s friends are like him—young and single—going out to bars until 4 a.m.
drinking, flirting with women, and behaving like a frat boy may be the norm.
“This can de-masculinize a man and make him feel like he’s unable to provide for and protect you.”Even worse, women in this situation may end up being a sugar mamma rather than an equal partner.