They become intimidated by women whom they fear have more experience than they do.They become too afraid to approach , never mind people they’re attracted to.
The numbers are arbitrary and invented and almost always tend to be pulled from thin air; I’ve had statistics when it comes to sex and relationships.
We tend to make assumptions based around expectations built up by pop-culture and expectations about what makes a “real” man, assuming that everybody (but us) has been riding the sex train since the 5th Grade while we’re still Machokeing our Combusken at 19.
(That remaining 1 out of 10 has done you the favor of self-selecting out of your dating pool and you should be grateful that you don’t need to deal with them.) When you’re treating your lack of dates or sexual activity as a crime perpetuated against you by the universe, it makes you considerably less attractive to… If you dig into women’s about how they behave and the attitudes they had towards themselves, towards women and towards relationships. There’s two ways that making excuses doesn’t help you.
First and foremost is trying to rationalize away your inexperience.
If you venture into any Forever Alone or incel community like /r9k/, you’ll see hundreds of people lamenting how much sex they’ve never had and how the world is conspiring against them.
That’s not taking ownership of being socially inexperienced; that’s making it the core of your identity and letting it overtake your life.The assumption is that women (because this is almost always a hetero male issue) will date a man who can rock their worlds and a virgin has no chance of pleasing her.And once he does, she will spread the word through the Cute Girl Network and ensure he’s blacklisted from all sexual activities in the future.You don’t need to explain or justify it; trying to find reasons why it’s less “shameful” than others’ just reinforces the idea that there’s something shameful about it in the first place.You don’t need to explain or excuse your lack of dating experience; “I had other priorities” or “Just hadn’t met the right person” are all you need to say if pressed.But here’s the fun thing about numbers: they don’t tell you as much as we think.