It is very common to romanticize new relationships and get caught up in the whirlwind of falling in love all over again following a divorce.
However, you need to learn to be independent again before you are stable enough to begin a new committed relationship. Distracting yourself from the pain does not help you get over the emotional distress, and many guys make the same mistake: They hurdle forward with the first person who gives them a wink and a smile.
Forming a connection to another person keeps you from experiencing the full extent of the emotional pain associated with your divorce.As a misguided attempt to move on with your life, you may jump back into the dating scene for fear of being alone.Divorce can be a shock to the system to go from having a spouse — even one who hasn’t really been there for you — to truly being alone.This emotionally fragile state can make for an extremely difficult adjustment, which leads many recent divorcees to (unhealthily) jump right into another relationship, commonly referred to as a rebound. It’s a fairly common attitude that if you want to get over someone who left you feeling hurt, you go out and find someone new to replace them.Be wary of the rebound, as it typically takes fully recovering emotionally before you are able to truly commit and understand what you want out of a relationship.
everyone should experience." While others tell horror stories of rebounds that failed to meet their expectations.
On the flip side, you may end up using this new person as an emotional escape while you slowly recover.
As you begin to heal over time, you may come to realize that this relationship isn’t really what you want, leaving the new partner hurt when you are fully ready to move on.
Casual dating can be fun, and divorce allows you to experience the dating scene again.
However, it takes a state of mind that typically doesn’t exist shortly after divorce to keep it casual.
While jumping right back into a rebound can help you forget the pain of divorce and potentially years of miserable marriage, it doesn’t mean that it’s healthy.