You never know if your true destiny is to meet your perfect man by accident… Open your options up so that you know that you’re not dependent on just one option. The answer will determine whether the relationship deepens or ends.
This can happen for a few reasons: 1) The new girl he jumps in with completely takes him out of that “mode” or “funk” he was caught up in.See, while you were listening to him sulk about his broken heart and smoothing his hair, new girl appeared out of nowhere as a limited-edition item. But the new girl who just entered the picture is completely fresh – he can act like whomever he wants to appear to be and she’ll accept that that’s who he is.MORE: 5 Things That Turn Men Off to Relationships Hollywood loves to spread this idea that if someone rejects you, you should just push harder and harder and harder and suddenly, some magic event will happen and you’ll end up together. It’s better I give you a straight-up reality check because reality can be pretty cold when it comes to this kind of thing.The good news is that there’s a way to avoid this and possibly turn things around. Not in a dramatic, mean-spirited or punishing sort of way. I have to imagine the sting is just as bad for a girl when she hears that message from a guy friend she has feelings for. Well, even if your guy isn’t “damaged goods,” I hope you read the last section because backing off is a truly be OK with being just friends right now.Sure, maybe you weren’t drawing unicorns and rainbows with his name surrounded by hearts in your notebook, but you are definitely a strong believer that you’re “meant to be together.” As romantic as all that sounds, it actually damages your chances for success in actually starting something.
Let’s look at why: To put it quite plainly, you want something that simply is not reality.She attracted him and in some way made it clear (usually without a word) that if he wants her, he needs to act now or lose his shot. hint) 2) He knows he can put up a front and the new girl will buy it… But with you, you Sometimes a guy just wants a vacation from himself and his problems.It’s amazing how quickly a man will get his act together when he believes he might lose his shot at something. Sure, these arrangements usually end up melting down (maybe in a week, a month or a year), but during that time he gets to postpone dealing with his issues and can numb his pain with a simple girl who doesn’t unearth any skeletons … 3) The new girl had the advantage of a fresh “mystique” – that is, he doesn’t know anything about her and she put up a dazzling image that completely seduced him.The more you try to force reality, the more it’s going to feel like pressure to the guy friend and the more he’s going to shrink away from you and guard himself.He’ll stop feeling like he can trust you and he’ll start feeling like he’s a target for your own personal conquest.You get to see him as the man he truly is – an unguarded version of himself that he hides from the world and only seems to let you see. So why, in the midst of this seemingly perfect situation, aren’t you any more than friends?